Happiness is not an emtion!!
It is an decision..
Why you say??
We are not in charge of our emotions, but we are in charge of our choices
People seek happiness...
They spend their whole lives looking for it
But how do you seek something that's already suppose to be inside of you
True happiness is still within us as human beings....right??
So why not CHOOSE to embrace that happiness...
Now we may not be in charge of our emotions...But...
We are in charge of our decisions..
We can even search for the meaning in our decisions or seek to understand why a decision was made...
Disclaimer: I'm looking for different perspectives here. So please dont hold back. This is just my opinion (therefore making the right one..lol) but I would love to hear from others. Whether you follow in public or anonymously, just chime in and give me your 2 cents.
Since this convo took place over BB Messenger I will share with you the initial response I got:
"Not all people seek happines. Some search day and night and for some, it is placed direct eye sight. Happiness is not "in" everyone. It is available to everyone though because it is not something to buy, but something you feel. Searching for the meaning of your choice makes no sense. One should search for why they make the choices they do and if those choices are worth their happiness."
Umm...happiness is mos def a conscious decision - you have to decide/resolve that nothing will steal your joy (as the old church mothers say). life sux at times and can be downright depressing (disease & death, violence, poverty, a nihilistic society, micheal jackson having to auction his prized possessions to pay down his debt! smh) so i def feel it is ok to be sad sometimes. the key is to move on from the sadness and decide to remain optimistic that everything will work out.
ReplyDeleteWe ARE in charge of our emotions..we choose how we react to different situations.. People spend their lives searching to fill a void..and they try to fill it with other things..sex, money, material things...and I think we call this searching for happiness. I think true happiness comes from humbling yourself to a higher power and knowing he's ultimately in control..and then making the best of your life... I actually don't think it comes from within..cause a lot of people have some "mess" in themselves and there's no happiness there!
ReplyDeleteI also think people (especially our age) live in fear of "what if" .. what if I commit to this relationship and I don't like her in 2 years, what if I get married and I end up divorced like everyone else?... what if I take this job and move..? or they are on the other side of the equation and have thrown all caution to the wind and are living friviously..of course happiness is subjective...but take the 39 year old woman who's never been married and has no kids that has to TELL herself, her friends and family everyday she's happy everyday..but in reality..she's sad and lonely and scared of not ever finding someone.
- (that didn't have anything to do with what u asked..I suffer from lack-of-ability-to-stay-on-topic ;)
Re: Happiness (in my very humble (new-agey) opinion)
ReplyDeleteThe average human being is never really quiet enough (inside the mind that is) to really even know what true happiness is. We have so many thoughts running through our minds (most of which are uncontrolled, sporadic, and influenced by external stimulus). As a result, most go through their existence, day by day, acting in direct response to such an impersonal (and flawed) thought pattern.
What does such an automated reaction lead to?
Just what you mentioned above, searching for everything outside of yourself (happiness, love, peace, etc.) The belief that life is happening to me rather than I am happening to life. (additionally, we are all too concerned with other people's shit - another reason we have difficulty listening to and figuring out what we truly want for ourselves)
Therefore, most choose unaccountability over responsibility. To choose responsibility, means we have to own everything that is coming into our lives --- positive and negative (the failed relationships, the weight gain, the depression, whatever)--- but not in a negative "weigh-you-down" type of way. But rather, in a manner, that pinpoints the thought/belief/opinion that spawned the situation into your physical experience... and killing it right then and there!
So in conclusion:
Happiness can be reached simply...
1. Just Choose Happiness/Good (in whatever situation we are being faced with)
2. But, you have to truly expect it with an unshakable certainty, no matter what! (which is where the problem lies for most folks...)
Re: the what-ifs (referenced in a prior comment)
I personally believe, for most folks, those what-ifs (the questioning feelings and thoughts) is the little voice within telling you that shit ain't gonna work, so don't force it and walk away from it. Usually, when people ignore that voice, and go through with it, what happens ? Exactly what that nagging feeling was warning about...