This is a question more or less that I hear from women more and more often. Not in regards to me but in regards to men they come in contact with on a regular basis.
Let me begin my diatribe by saying that you fellas that are giving men a bad name leaving me in a Catch 22. By you being dogs you make me the exception, The Enigma. The Break from the status quo and that’s cool. But at the same time you guys are treating females so badly now that they have forgotten what its like to be treated like a woman, and spoken to like a woman should be spoken to. So they have come to expect the crap that so many males feed them now a days as the norm. I am tired of seeing to many females subconsciously accept BS men as the standard of what a man should be.
Ladies Lesson #1: You will Not Get What You Want By Settling For Less
This is self-explanatory. If you are settling that means you are compromising what you want for something less than what you deserve. You need to stop this practice. If you want a man that is in school, without kids, and doesn’t use the word Bitch like water, then go for it. Take the happiness that you deserve to have and experience a relationship that is actually enriching. Find a man that you can bring home to mama, but can also handle things in other ways the way you want them handled. A man, who challenges you mentally, helps you to blossom emotionally and positively contributes to your spiritual growth. These are crucial elements in helping a relationship truly blossom into something beautiful.
In addition to this, if you settle for this man...Then you will always resent him because he isn’t ALL that you want him to be. Resentment builds and leads to conflict. Conflict resentment spreads itself like a cancer within your relationship and affects all other elements of your relationship from the Physical, Mental, and Emotional Standpoints. This will also affect your spiritual vitality, because you put yourself in a coach class situation when God has nothing but 1st class for you. So as you settle for things outside of Gods plan for your life you ultimately get comfortable with things that create distance between you and God.
In conclusion my sistas, respect yourself and don't settle for less than what you want when choosing the man that will occupy your mind and your time. It will help you grow that much more as a person, and will improve the happiness of that relationship as well as relationships that you will find yourself in the future because you will have a greater sense of self. Now if you would like to get deeper on this topic hit me up. Cause I left a lot out. Compromise is different than settling. So its okay to compromise slightly just DONT SETTLE. Till Next Time
Though you make a valid argument here -- you still haven't answered the question.
ReplyDeleteWhat has happened to Chivalry? To man's ability to rescue a woman? ;) ...to sweep her off her feet?
Where is the effort the men to treat women better? Is it only necessary that women alter their actions and habits? No - unfortunately, it is not that easy. By women being the only side to take action, we're left to literally compete over the good guys remaining. Supply does not meet the demand.
With the small selection of "Mr. Enigmas" scattered about... we end up settling in some way, if not completely.
So while you vent about our lack of acquiring what we deserve, i say that men need to also work harder at providing all the things a gem like a woman should have, know, obtain and love.
Amen! I definitely agree that you get what you put out and what you settle for! Unfortunately, a lot of us women have to learn that the hard way, and sometimes never learn it - and, even if we do learn it, it's sometimes very hard to practice all the time. I know at times I revert back to the old Ayanna.
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